8 Ways to Stop Trying to Please Your Boyfriend at All Times

Date:23-04-2014 14:40:06 read:0

A worthy man will always respect and love a self-assured woman. While pleasing your loved one can make life more beautiful for the two of you; overdoing it or obsessing about it all day can create a lot of havoc in your life. A woman who is too eager to please will not hold the interest of her man for long. And on the other hand, if the guy is expecting you to please him every time, chances are you are in a wrong relationship. So stop wanting to please every time. Here are some ways to help you get out of the habit.

1. Don’t cancel your plans

If you have made important plans to be with family or friends already, a date asked by your boyfriend should not stop you from proceeding with your original plan. There are important people in your life besides your boyfriend and they should not be overlooked because of one new relationship.

2. Don’t make excuses for him

Your boyfriend may fail to act upon any of his promises, some of which may be genuine. Allow him to come back with a reason. You should not be making excuses for him just to make him feel less guilty about it. It may become a habit.

3. Let him do his chores

Helping each other is a great way to bond. But if you volunteer and think it is your duty to complete his chores for him, you are setting a wrong pace in your relationship. Both the parties to a relationship must be independent and have their own sense of responsibility.

4. Stop worrying about what he thinks

Chances are he is thinking nothing. You do not have to assume, pre-empt or think for him. The objective should be a harmonious relationship that assures mutual happiness. Therefore, if there is something you like to do, a true boyfriend will respect you for following your heart and not be judgmental. Being yourself is the first rule in a relationship.

5. Stop blaming yourself

Arguments and misunderstandings are normal in a relationship. Reasons for these problems can be varied. But blaming yourself every time you argue or fight with your boyfriend just because you want to make him happy is a move in the wrong direction. Such thoughts and actions can deteriorate your self-confidence greatly.

6. Learn to give and take

Every relationship must be built on mutual trust, love and care. If you are the only one who is doing and giving all the time, you should stop doing it. Eventually, you will begin to neglect your own wants and desires and a worthy man will not let you fall into such a rut.

7. Don’t pay his debts

There may be many times you want to help him but there are other instances that are better avoided. Money is one such area. If he has financial problems, you could help him find a way out of it but not lend him money and make that a habit. While there may not be problems, it is always better to draw a fine line in issues that are usually potential problem creators.

8. Stop feeling obligated

You are committed to each other but that is no reason to feel obligated towards him. Routine calls at appointed time, physical intimacy just to please him and doing his laundry are not things that should feature in your to-do list every day. Do only those things that you like to do and not because you feel obligated to please him that way.

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