5 Ways to Handle Sexist Remarks

Date:13-06-2013 12:20:06 read:8
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It’s very common for a woman to face sexist remarks in various situations in life. Sometimes these remarks come from colleagues at work, while at other times they can also come in from friends and family. In a few situations, these remarks or comments also come in randomly from strangers. Obviously, nobody likes listening to them, and we all feel angry when someone makes such statements. However, losing one’s calm is not the solution to the problem. And at the same time, staying quiet and weak is not the right approach either. So here are some ways in which you can handle sexist remarks smartly.

1. Ignore and wait

If it has happened only once till now, ignore, and try to forget about it. Maybe, the other person wasn’t being sexist, and you mistook it. But if you are sure that it wasn’t a mistake, then just wait to see if it happens again. Wait and gage, why and how frequently are these remarks coming to you. If it’s really minimal, then there is no point freaking out over it, lest you spoil your image.

2. Use word play

So if someone calls you ‘Honey’, ‘Sweetheart’ or ‘Babe’ too often at work, and you are not really enjoying it, make sure that you start referring to him more formally. For instance, when someone repeatedly comes and says, ‘Honey, is that done?’, or ‘Sweetheart, can you check this list again?’, make sure you reply with, ‘Of course, SIR’, or ‘Sure, MR. COLLINS!’. Stressing on their name or designation would make the point clear that you want the same treatment or behavior from them.

3. Make a comeback

Wait for a situation where the person who made a remark on you is in a weak state. Then make your comeback with either great work, or by repeating what he had said to you earlier and then clarifying how he was wrong. For instance, when someone at works says, “You’re that pretty topping on the cake that nobody really needs, and is of no use, but we keep you still for appeal and attraction” . Reply to that sometime later when you’ve cracked a big deal, or have received a promotion by saying, ‘The topping on the cake is what makes it sell in the first place and attracts more business. Still think you can do without it?”

4. Create or quote a witty line

If someone is repeatedly calling you with sexist tags such as ‘Honey’ and ‘Baby’, just stop them in the middle and say something witty, like, ‘Honey was the name of my neighbor’s dead dog’, or quote something like ‘Research shows that 65% of the men who use words like Honey and Sweetheart at work are not getting enough action at home. Is the situation for you equally sad?’

5. Avoid situations where people can be sexist

Sometimes, women can unknowingly attract wrong situations, which can cause coworkers or others to make sexist remarks. For instance, never say things like ‘I think my cleavage worked to get that deal from the client’ or ‘I have an important meeting tomorrow. Need to package myself well.’ Even if you say such things lightly or as a joke, men around you are bound to think otherwise, and that will lead to ugly sexist comments. Be very professional at work, and don’t seek any privileges for yourself. After all, if you are seeking equality, then you shouldn’t get privileges too, right? Avoid all situations where things can turn nasty.

The mindset of people is changing quite slowly and gradually. There are still a lot of sexist traits and actions in men that need to be checked. But since the change can’t happen immediately, it’s best that women stay calm and rational about this. Acting like too much of a feminist can also put you in trouble sometimes.

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