10 Reasons to Take Him Back After He has Cheated on You

Date:20-06-2013 14:40:14 read:1277

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Commitment can sometimes be one of the most over hyped things expected out of a relationship. Having pointed that out, it does not mean for men to go all polygamous and have multiple relationships. In some context or the other, cheating does come in, and needs to be discussed amongst couples and thought about by individuals properly. As far as accepting back someone is concerned, here are some things you need to check and think about.

1. Find out what cheating means to you

Cheating can be understood differently by different kind of people. Most people often try to classify cheating into emotional and physical cheating. Some people are okay with physical cheating and just can’t bear the feeling of their boyfriends emotionally cheating on them, while for some other women it is completely the opposite. One should give time to thinking about these two things, and decide if it is okay with you if your partner does cheat you at an emotional level or a physical level. These are things that should also be discussed in the relationship at length.

2. Try understanding the reason behind him cheating

Often, more than disregarding someone straying in a relationship, it is important to understand what could be the reason for the same. If you managed to have the patience to fall in love with someone, and managed to respect that person to be your boyfriend or husband, then it is also important to hear him out and see why he might have done this. Sometimes talking things out makes all the difference.

3. Respect him for having the guts to confront you

This reason is only applicable if you found out about it from the horse’s mouth. If your boyfriend or husband gathered the guts to confess it to you, then you should probably respect his honesty. It takes some amount of guts to confront a loved one after you have betrayed their trust. In this world, where most people are escapists, honesty is one quality which should be appreciated.

4. It is normal to cheat

Have you ever wondered that even after cheating being such a taboo, why do men still cheat in a relationship? Have you ever considered the fact that may be we are wired that way? May be all of us are capable of liking more than one person at the same time, and because of all the restrictions from the society we live in, we have totally not given this a thought. If given a thought to this, you will understand that cheating comes naturally to people. And if forced, men often stray emotionally too.

5. Sometimes the guy is actually sorry

In relationships, often we get so harsh that we overlook the love we felt so strongly at one point in time. Sometimes men stray, and when they come back to apologize, they actually mean it. They are sorry from the bottom of their hearts, and if given a chance, they might want to prove how important you are in their lives.

6. You need to follow your heart

Women are often dependent on other girl friends for relationship advice. Sometimes, under their friends’ pressure, they get rid of a cheating boyfriend, whereas in their own hearts they have actually forgiven the person. You should not get influenced by your friends. After all, you were the one in that relationship and you might understand the guy better than your friends do. Give him a chance if your heart has forgiven him.

7. Don’t be embarrassed with the fact that he cheated on you

Some women might not think cheating to be a big deal, but they are under peer pressure. They think it is embarrassing that their boyfriends were not satisfied in the relationship. Sometimes, some of the most satisfied men also cheat. One needs to understand that it is just a mistake, and should have the courage to forgive and forget.

8. May be it is just a one time affair

What if your guy really loved you? What if he actually cares for you? What if in the spur of the moment he made a mistake and now he really wants to set things right? Shouldn’t he be given a chance? Shouldn’t he be understood? What if your chance of finding such an emotional relationship with a person just goes away, just because you throw him out of your life in a moment of anger? All these questions need to be addressed.

9. Cheating in some cultures is not such a big deal

A lot of people around the world who have liberal sexual lives actually accept the idea of cheating. The only difference is that they do not call it ‘cheating’. They believe in open relationships, where everyone has the sexual freedom to choose a partner, and get satisfied physically. It has got nothing to do with emotionally betraying someone or breaking mental and heartfelt bonds with people. Try giving this concept a thought.

10. Everyone’s boundaries are different

It is important to set boundaries in a relationship. And if there are no boundaries, then that also needs to be stated. These kinds of things should be discussed at the beginning of the relationship itself. What if the guy thinks that casual flirting with another woman is okay but you consider it to be cheating? These kinds of things need to be clarified before dumping the guy you are in a relationship with.

One may have a problem with the kind of reasons suggested here, but this is not to propagate the act of cheating in any way. This is just to let you know that if a man cheats on you, the reasons for that need to be understood properly. A hasty decision can end up hurting you and him both, and would make you lose a person who could have been great for you.

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